Office relatives can be a good partners, let's say your direct supervisor or even the big boss of the company. Knowing that each person has different characteristics, of course everyone will have certain different expectations that affect to the quality of relationship. Many office workers / executives sometimes feel stressed out because they are always clashing with expectations of office relatives, especially when it comes to work appraisals and salary increases. However, if we draw a common ground with your life, will everybody happy with us? The answer is certainly not. We cannot make everybody happy, we just able to do self-evaluation and be a better person everyday.
Thus, it's good to balance your action with coworkers' expectation, especially if it leads to a better you. Let's check this out!
Knowing Their Motives
Not try to be offensive, but you need to know what the motives of why the office relatives put certain expectations about you? Different if the coworker is your direct supervisor who is certainly need to assess your performance hence he/she needs to put clear expectation about you and your works. If a coworker turns out to have a negative attitude (for example looks "envy" so intentionally saying bad things about you that far away from the reality) then you don't have to take it personally. However, if someone is your role model and do have a positive attitude yet track records, then you can take his/her bad feedback as self-assessment and discuss directly how you can make improvement.
Realistic and Logic
Be a different person and not to be pressured with people's expectation will help you reduce the stress levels. You must be realistic in building relationships with all coworkers. You need to criticize every feedback or expectation given back to you in order to be objective. Being polite and professional to everyone is your duty, but trying to meet everyone's expectations is not something that will improve your success.
Is it true about their feedback? Are those feedback help you become a better and successful person? If not, then you should never force yourself to adjust to these expectations. For example, you are expected to be able to 'cooperate' for joint corruption activities, then rely on your own principle and dare to refuse. If necessary, you can get out from the circle of relations. Always evaluate and also think about the long-term risks that will be gained. Trust your gut.
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